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Gavin HamnettMS, LMHC
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When a good life feels hollow

Therapy for professionals and founders in New York whose success looks right and feels empty.

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Who This Is For

On paper, it's working. The business grew, the title came, the house got bought. And yet you wake up flat, or restless, or quietly asking whether this is all there is. You may even feel guilty for not being happier when you have so much.

That gap usually isn't ingratitude. More often, somewhere along the way you started living to meet a standard, yours or someone else's, and lost touch with what you actually want. The achievements are real. They just aren't reaching the person underneath.

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What It Can Feel Like

  • Hollow wins

    Reaching the goal and moving straight to the next one, with no sense of arrival.

  • Running on drive

    Pushing through every day, unsure who you would be without the push.

  • A life that fits someone else

    Choices that made sense at the time and now feel like borrowed clothes.

  • Quiet depression

    Functioning well while something underneath has gone gray.

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How I Work With Hollow Success

I believe each of us has an innate Self that was never damaged, only covered over. Many successful people got where they are by overriding that Self, pushing past feelings, needs, and doubts because there was work to do. That carries you for a while. Eventually something in you starts asking to be heard.

With Hakomi and somatic work, we slow down enough to notice what your body says about the life you are living: the sinking feeling before a certain meeting, the ease that shows up on a free afternoon. Psychodynamic work helps us see whose expectations you have been living up to. From there, you can start choosing more of your life on purpose.

More about my approach
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What Sessions Look Like

  1. A free conversation

    A complimentary 20 minute phone consultation, so you can see whether this feels like the right kind of help.

  2. Time that is yours

    55 minute sessions, weekly or every two weeks, in Rhinebeck, Hudson, or by telehealth in New York State.

  3. Honest questions

    We look at what you want, not only at what you happen to be good at.

What Can Shift

What I hope for is that your life starts to feel like yours. Unforced. Self-authored. Less about proving and more about living, and able to say one simple thing and mean it.

If your life looks good and doesn't feel that way, a free 20 minute phone consultation is a good first step.

"It's good to be me."

Rates in Brief

Sessions are $160 for 55 minutes. The first step is a complimentary 20 minute phone consultation.

Rates
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Questions People Ask

Isn't this just a midlife crisis?

It can happen at any age. Whatever you call it, it is worth paying attention to.

Do I have to blow up my life to feel better?

No. The change is often more about how you live inside your life than about tearing it down.

I'm busy. How often would we meet?

Clients often start weekly and move to every other week. Sessions are 55 minutes, in person or by telehealth.

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Start With a Free Consultation

Send me a short message and I'll set up a free 20 minute phone call.

Request a free consultation (845) 532-8336