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Gavin HamnettMS, LMHC
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When you no longer feel like you

Therapy for adults in New York who have drifted far from who they are.

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Who This Is For

It can be hard to put into words. Nothing terrible happened, or something did and you got through it, and somewhere along the way you stopped feeling like yourself. You go through the motions. You make choices that seem to belong to someone else.

The people who come to me with this are often capable and busy. They have built careers, families, or businesses. What they have lost is the feeling of being at home in their own life.

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What We Work On

  • Going through the motions

    Days that get done without you really being in them.

  • Living for others

    Years of meeting everyone else's needs until your own got hard to find.

  • Not knowing what you want

    Simple questions about what you like that suddenly feel impossible to answer.

  • Old roles

    Ways of being you learned early that never quite fit.

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How I Work With a Lost Sense of Self

My view is that your innate Self is not wounded. What happens is that wounding dislocates us from it, and we lose touch with the part of us that was there all along. I call that part the Organic Self.

So we don't try to build a new you. Using Hakomi and somatic work, we notice the small moments when you feel more present and more like yourself, and we stay with them. Psychodynamic work helps us see what pulled you away in the first place. Recreation of the Self is another approach I draw on in this work.

More about my approach
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What Sessions Look Like

  1. A free first call

    A complimentary 20 minute phone consultation, so you can hear how I work.

  2. A steady rhythm

    55 minute sessions, weekly or every two weeks, in Rhinebeck, Hudson, or by telehealth in New York.

  3. Noticing what is yours

    We pay attention to the moments when something feels true to you, however small.

What Can Shift

The change I hope for is quiet but real: choices that feel Self-authored, a day you are actually present for, and a sense of ease that doesn't have to be forced.

The sentence I hope you can say, and mean, is a simple one.

"It's good to be me."

Rates in Brief

Sessions are $160 for 55 minutes. The first step is a complimentary 20 minute phone consultation.

Rates
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Questions People Ask

Is this the same as depression?

Sometimes losing your sense of Self comes with depression, and sometimes it doesn't. You don't need a label to start. We can talk about what you are noticing on the free call.

What if I'm not sure who I was to begin with?

That is common. The work isn't about returning to an earlier version of you. It is about getting back in touch with the Self that has been underneath all along.

Do I have to dig into my childhood?

Only as much as is useful. We often start with what is happening now and follow it where it leads.

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Start With a Free Consultation

Send me a short message and I'll set up a free 20 minute phone call.

Request a free consultation (845) 532-8336