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Finding yourself again after it ends

Individual therapy for adults in New York rebuilding after a breakup, separation, or divorce.

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Who This Is For

When a relationship ends, you lose more than the person. You lose a routine, a future you had pictured, sometimes a home, friends, or the version of yourself you were with them. It makes sense that it hurts this much, even if you were the one who left.

Therapy can help you grieve what ended, understand your part without drowning in blame, and find out who you are now. I see individuals, not couples, so this is time that belongs entirely to you.

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What People Bring After an Ending

The grief
Missing someone, or missing the life you thought you would have.
Anger and guilt
Feelings that swing back and forth, sometimes in the same hour.
Starting over
Living alone, co-parenting, dating again, or deciding not to yet.
Old patterns
Noticing what you keep choosing in relationships, and where that started.

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How I Work With Endings

In the early weeks, the work is often simple: having a steady place to feel what you feel. Somatic work helps here, because a breakup lives in the body as much as the mind, in a tight throat, a sleepless night, a stomach that won't settle.

As things steady, Hakomi and psychodynamic work help us look at the patterns underneath, what you learned early about love, closeness, and being enough. I believe the Self you were born with stays intact through all of it. An ending, painful as it is, can be a real chance to come back to it.

More about my approach

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What Sessions Look Like

A gentle first call
A free 20 minute phone consultation. Share as much or as little as you want.
Regular support
55 minute sessions, weekly or every two weeks, in Rhinebeck, Hudson, or by telehealth in New York State.
One week at a time
We work with what actually happened this week: the hard conversation, the quiet evening, the small good moment.

What Can Shift

What I hope for isn't only getting over it. It is coming out the other side more yourself than before: steadier, clearer about what you want, and at home in your own company.

If you are finding your way after an ending, a free 20 minute phone consultation is a kind place to start.