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Making sense of a late ADHD diagnosis

Therapy for adults in New York newly diagnosed with ADHD, or wondering, and rethinking the story so far.

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Who This Is For

A lot of people describe two feelings after an adult ADHD diagnosis, sometimes in the same week. Relief, because there is finally a reason for the missed deadlines, the lost keys, and the half finished projects. And grief, for the years spent thinking you were lazy, careless, or just not trying hard enough.

Both make sense. A diagnosis can explain a great deal, but it doesn't undo the story you have told about yourself for decades. That is where therapy can help: making sense of the past, easing the shame, and working out how you want to live with the mind you have.

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What Comes Up After a Diagnosis

Rewriting the story
Looking back at school, work, and relationships with new eyes.
Shame and self criticism
Setting down the harsh verdicts you carried for years.
Anxiety on top
The constant worry that grew out of trying to keep up.
Working with your mind
Finding rhythms for work and creative projects that fit how you actually think.

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How I Work With Adult ADHD

I offer individual therapy for adults with ADHD and for adults who wonder if they have it. If medication is part of your care, therapy can sit alongside it. Our focus is the stress, shame, and habits that grew up around how your mind works.

Mindful, body based work can seem like an odd fit for a busy mind. We keep it short and concrete. Noticing what your attention does in real time, without judging it, can bring a kindness toward yourself that trying harder never did. Underneath the diagnosis is a Self that was never the problem.

More about my approach

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What Sessions Look Like

Start with a phone call
A complimentary 20 minute consultation to talk about your diagnosis, or your questions, and what you want help with.
A rhythm that works
55 minute sessions, weekly or every two weeks, in Rhinebeck, Hudson, or by telehealth in New York State.
Real life, not theory
We work with your actual week: the email you avoided, the idea that took off, the day that fell apart.

What Can Shift

What I hope for is that you come to see your mind as yours, not as a defect. With less shame in the way, there is more room for the parts of you that are quick, curious, and creative, and for feeling, maybe for the first time in a while, that it's good to be you.

If you are making sense of a new diagnosis, a free 20 minute phone consultation is a simple next step.